Kidpower Book for Caring Adults & Communities

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Are you a Caring Kidpower Adult?

I must say, when I got my copy of this book, I felt a bit daunted by the size of it.

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Talk about value for money! I looked at it, rather than read it, for about 2 months. It just sat there next to my chair on the sill. I did eventually flick through it – without reading – and saw a colourful, organised, picture-inclusive book in which there proved to be a huge amount of helpful, life-changing information.

The Kidpower Book for Caring Adults: Personal Safety, Self-Protection, Confidence, and Advocacy for Young People

I wanted to train with Kidpower on the Instructor training and this was also my pre-course text book. When I have to do something and I’m afraid of failure, I tend to not do it – not until I have to or time’s running out and the pressure is on!

I was grateful for the generous amount of pictures which made me smile, taught me with visuals, sometimes without even having to read anything, I could see what was going on. But then I became engrossed when I started reading the text. It was so interesting and informative – then I had to know everything. I bought every single Kidpower book and also ordered the books by Gavin de Becker, who wrote the Foreword, which are incredibly hair-raising and honest.

Don’t be Afraid to Learn in different ways

Learning new things makes us wiser. Reading about how to protect your children is the textbook version of learning from someone else’s life lessons. Going to a Workshop allows you to interact with others and to learn from lots of people, and they can learn from you. It confirms for you that you are not alone! How many times do we need to hear that, my friends?

Know Thy Neighbour

Talking to your friends, or even strangers, about child protection and sharing great ideas and safety skills you’ve picked up, helps to create a community of protection around our children. Getting to know your neighbour rather than living in a bubble is a far safer way to live.

I wish you a delightful read.

Share with your community – Go On, be a STAR!

Ursula

Highly recommended, add these books by Gavin de Becker to your collection.

Stranger Safety and Kidnapping Prevention Skills

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Stranger Safety & 

Kidnapping Prevention Skills

There are hundreds of resources available for everyone to learn from and share on the Kidpower.org website.  I spent over a year learning about child safety and advocacy and chose to train with Kidpower. I went to America in January 2016 and did my Instructor Training and now have a couple of workshop videos I need to record to complete my certification. We had the most wonderful time together. Such wonderful, inspirational people. I’m very proud to have been a part of the group in California this year, to have met the team and to have been trained by a lovely group who came from far and wide to train us new recruits. I think it was the children we taught who were training us!! Boy do they keep you on your toes!

I also met a wonderful South African lady who has taken Kidpower back home. I hope to share some stories about SA through her. So watch this space.

I’ve chosen the topic of stranger safety and kidnapping prevention skills because I’ve been reading articles about the awful trafficking that has been going on in Nepal since their earthquake a year ago, where the papers say government officials have been accepting bribes to traffic people into slavery, forced marriages, and the sex trade. It reminds me of my constant awareness of kidnapping and teaching my children about trusting their instincts with strangers, wherever we are. I hope you find this article informative and please keep browsing and learning from this incredible resource.

If you’re interested in attending a Kidpower workshop in Bristol over the next couple of months then please let me know so I can get you booked on.

Keep Safe.

Shocking Child Abuse Statistics – YOU do the math!

I was listening to a podcast yesterday where Professor Jane Barlow was discussing a document published by Jessica Kingsley: Safeguarding Children from Emotional Maltreatment.  It states that the number of children on the Child Protection Register is around 6% but that Child Abuse is believed to be around 10% of children, with statistics saying that emotional abuse is at least 30% of children. These figures were from 2009–10, with a known number of 88,700 children.

>>>>>>>FAST FORWARD 2016

The NSPCC, who probably have the best-documented statistics on child abuse in the United Kingdom, more recently estimated that there are more than likely eight times the number of reported cases of child abuse per annum – over 500,000 children – but admittedly, they “don’t know exactly how many children in the UK are victims of child abuse” because it “is usually hidden from view and children may be too young, too scared or too ashamed to tell anyone about what is happening to them.”

Demographics show that there are almost five times as many Americans (319 million) as Britons (64.5 million). American National Child Abuse organisation Childhelp.org currently reports that “yearly, referrals to state child protective services (CPS) involve 6.6 million children, and around 3.2 million of those children are subject to an investigated report.”

America has been collecting far more robust figures than the UK for a much longer period of time.

So I thought I’d do the math:

6.6m and 3.2m of 319m is 2.07% and 1% respectively.

If the UK followed the same ratios, then

2.07% and 1% of 64.5m would be 1,335,000 and 645,000 children respectively.

Imagine if I’m right, and there are not “more than 500,000 children” as the NSPCC reports, but closer to 650,000 children requiring investigation EACH YEAR.

The words “THIS HAS TO STOP BEFORE IT STARTS” are ringing in my ears.

Please support me in my MISSION to get my workshops “out there” to your networks. I am working on getting them recorded and they will be up soon.

Resource: NSPCC

How Safe Are Our Children video

Jutte, S. et al (2015)  How safe are our children? The most comprehensive overview of child protection in the UK. London: NSPCC.

Preventing Abuse – Child Abuse and Neglect

Resource: Childhelp.org

Child Abuse Statistics

Resource: Safeguarding Children from Emotional Maltreatment. What Works … by Jessica Kingsley Publishers

“… Child development indicators of emotional abuse or neglect. 39 ….. most recent government statistics show that, in 2009–10, 88,700 children and …… The Lancet 371, 1595–1602; and Cuijpers, P. (2002) ‘Peer-led…”

Safeguarding Children Across Services Series

 

- Informed. Safe -

The author is not a mathematician nor a statistician and reserves the right to have incorrectly calculated the number of children. It still needs STOPPING!

WHAT IS BEING DONE?

I’d like to encourage all parents to be courageous and to follow their instincts when it comes to the safety and wellbeing of their children at school.

So often, I’ve heard parents complaining about:

  • their child’s moodswings and strange new behaviours and attitudes
  • terrible incidents that have happened at school
  • bullying
  • teasing
  • inappropriate behaviour between children.

When I’ve asked: “What have you done about it?” and I’m answered with: “Well, nothing, really,” it makes me wonder why they’ve done nothing. Are they:

  • afraid
  • complacent
  • unsupported
  • uncomfortable communicating
  • unaware of current issues
  • unable to cope with conflict?

If you feel that your child is not behaving normally after a school day, don’t be complacent. Find out if everything went okay that day. Often schools try to deal with issues and the parents never get to find out. A child who is afraid to say what’s wrong could easily develop new behaviours (usually undesirable as they’re acting out). They may be influenced by their peers at school and not even realise they’re behaving differently.

When you see your child after their day at school and you ask them what they did that day, and all they can do is shrug their shoulders and say, “Nothing…” then you know something’s up. Something has probably happened to preoccupy your child’s mind above and beyond the education of the day.  A happy child will more than likely want to talk.

Bullying is often not understood by children. They might be the nicest of kids and not want to “tell” on their friends or school mates in case they get bullied further, or taunted; they could already be afraid of the bully.

Abuse in any form will affect a child’s mood and behaviour. The important thing to do is to NOTICE! Too often our children start to change and we put it down to:

  • a phase
  • growing up
  • hormones
  • boys
  • girls
  • etc.

The most important things to do are to:

  1. NOTICE – that your child is behaving differently to usual.

  2. ELICIT – often the best way is the straightforward, honest way: You could say: “I can see something’s wrong. I don’t want you to feel like you have to tell me right now but until you do, I can’t do anything to help you, and I really want to help you to feel happy and safe. Come and tell me when you want to feel happy and safe.” All children want to feel happy and safe and it’s our duty as their parents/carers/adults to ensure this.
  3. REMAIN CALM – there is no point in getting worked up. Your child needs to know that you are in control of the situation and you won’t be showing that if you’ve lost the plot! They need to know that they can come to you whenever they have a crisis.
  4. REASSURE – your child needs reassurance that they aren’t going to be in trouble for telling, and they need to know that if required, you will be discreet so that they won’t be victimised further.
  5. TAKE ACTION – always do something about it! Whatever the problem is. Show your child that it was worth telling you and that you have taken them seriously. (If you don’t, who will?) You may need to speak to the school, or in less urgent situations, write to the school and follow up with them to ensure that they have taken on board what you’ve said so that they can act in the best interests of your child when your child is in their care. It is always a good idea to follow up with the teacher/office/head teacher and if necessary, meet with them and your child to show solidarity and so that your child knows what the next steps are.
  6. FOLLOW UP – always let the child know what action has been taken so that they can prepare themselves (mentally and emotionally or academically – dependent on the situation).
  7. SUPPORT – always let the child know that they have your support and that the right thing to do is to always tell you straightaway if something is wrong because their happiness and safety is most important to you. Find support for yourself too.

Remember that we’re not alone in the struggle to keep our children safe. We are ALL IN THE SAME BOAT!

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Medical Kidnapping – illegal, corrupt, unjust

How safe are our children from Medical Kidnapping – when the system behaves in an illegal, corrupt and unjust way? Listening to a podcast yesterday on a UBN Radio show with Tammi Stefano of the National Safe Child Coalition made me wonder about how vulnerable we are as a society when it comes to Social Care. And it makes me dig my heels in even more when it comes to finding a better way.

Of course, we hear about the horror stories of children being taken away by Social Services, as they were once known, and children being placed into foster care. It’s all too true, too real. Of course it happens. It should always happen for the safety of the child but this evidence-based book talks about the horrors of Medical Kidnapping.

It’s like ordering a child through the combined efforts of the medical system and social care, in America, called CPS (Child Protective Services). The radio interview mentions this book, so I got it without hesitation. It’s available on kindle so immediately downloadable. The frightening thing is, they talk about everyone with a child being vulnerable and it’s just a matter of time and whether your ticket has the “wrong” number. This could happen to you. Please be aware of the dangers. I’m going to be doing some more investigations into what happens in the UK. It’s the kind of thing that you just pray is not true, until it happens to you or someone you know.

The National Safe Child Show

  • Show Title: The National Safe Child Show – April 08, 2016
  • Show Title: The National Safe Child Show – A family torn apart by the system

“Tammi Stefano is the Executive Director of The National Safe Child Coalition (NSCC). Tammi has spent over two decades on frontlines fighting for child safety.  She understands the emotions of being victimized, having survived a kidnapping in her younger years. Determination was the driving force that prompted her to go undercover to catch a pedophile school teacher.  Tammi’s hands-on advocacy work has drawn comparisons to Erin Brockovich.   She brings a background of legal research, training in child sexual abuse, certification as a Supervising Visitation Monitor and years working with parents on their Family Court cases.  Having launched Capital Campaigns for Law Enforcement, Fire Organizations and Public Schools, Tammi is eager to launch a campaign to reform a broken system.

Tammi is on the Planning Committee for the International Violence Abuse and Trauma Conference (IVAT). She also is on IVAT’s Sub-Committees; Child Maltreatment Victims (physical and Sexual Abuse); Children Exposed to Violence;  Legal & Criminal Justice Issues. Tammi is a member of the National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence (NPEIV) and is Co-Chairwoman on their Networking & Public Relations Committee.”

UK VOTE choosemypcc

Having the right people in charge of our Policing is essential. I urge you to take a stand and vote on 5th May 2016. We have the important decision to make and the action to take in electing our next area Police and Crime Commissioner.

Why not fire off some questions to your candidates and see if they respond? I know I’ll be doing that. I want to know:

  • How do you propose to improve tackling crimes against children?
  • How do you propose to educate and prevent crimes against children?

I’ll be voting. Will you?

Leave me a comment if you have any thoughts on this subject.

You can find information on candidates at Choose your Police and Crime Commissioner from 13th April.

A sneak preview in yesterday’s Bristol Post for Avon and Somerset.

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BE BRAVE – LET’S PUT A SPANNER IN THE WORKS!

How long are we as a people going to be afraid to actually do something about STOPPING child abuse?

How long are we going to sweep what we know under the carpet and pretend it doesn’t exist? How many generations will it take to weed out the active pedophiles from society? You have to ask yourself:

Am I putting a spanner in the works? Am I being brave? Am I fighting for justice? Or, Have I left the justice up to someone else? Am I sitting on my hands and turning a blind eye?

Think about all the articles you’ve read in the newspapers. Have you stopped buying them because it’s always filled with tragedy and corruption?

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Has any injustice to children ever changed the way that you look at our world, our society, our schools, our education, our knowledge, our ignorance?

What have you done to make a difference? PLEASE let me know. It would be great to hear from you!

It’s time to stop being afraid and to put a spanner in the works for all abusers.

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